I'm jsut found out I am going to be a father

[NeverGoingBack]

Um... badgirl there is adoption.

I mean comon give the kids a chance its not their fault their parents are irresponsible and arent willing to try to finish what they started.

( I am all to fimiliar with the situation since i asked my women to consider an abortion and she has decided that we will keep the child )

Now in GlowPoles g/f situation tis different since it can be fatal to her. They have alot of pressure on them.

GlowPole your's and mine situations are alike in so many ways. Seriously if you need to talk to someone Im here for you man. I never mentioned my g/f pregnancy to anyone here becuase I didnt and still dont know what the future has in store for us, so thanks man. When you know that there are other out there going through similar things as you it doesnt make you feel so alone.

 

[VBadGirl]

Originally posted by nevergoingback
Um... badgirl there is adoption.

I mean comon give the kids a chance its not their fault their parents are irresponsible and arent willing to try to finish what they started.

( I am all to fimiliar with the situation since i asked my women to consider an abortion and she has decided that we will keep the child )

Now in GlowPoles g/f situation tis different since it can be fatal to her. They have alot of pressure on them.

GlowPole your's and mine situations are alike in so many ways. Seriously if you need to talk to someone Im here for you man. I never mentioned my g/f pregnancy to anyone here becuase I didnt and still dont know what the future has in store for us, so thanks man. When you know that there are other out there going through similar things as you it doesnt make you feel so alone.

the adoption is far worse than abortion. i guess u are lucky but think all the kids in the adoption centers that had been moved to one family to another. either they couldnt fit in, either they had problems at school. is not easy to live a life knowing ur mum wanted to get ride of u. the adopted life is not always like...they found u a family and u later find out that the ppl that u loved and u called mum and dad are actually not ur parents. look at judging amy is an excelent show and u'll find out a bit more about the inside of those "fortunate" kids.

think like that. its a puppy..is really sick and he is tremous pain..u can keep him alive with tons of drugs..but u can have the dignity and put an end to his misery. to bring peace to him. what do u now?. let him suffer or let him go?

is not easy to 'finsh' what u started not by being urself a kid. u can barely take care of urself even less of another kid.

to be honnest i dont know how some girls even consider having a baby so young...i really dont..but then are the brakes.

 

[NeverGoingBack]

Originally posted by VBadGirl
think like that. its a puppy..is really sick and he is tremous pain..u can keep him alive with tons of drugs..but u can have the dignity and put an end to his misery. to bring peace to him. what do u now?. let him suffer or let him go?

Its people that compare children that should have just as much of a chance at life as their parents did to a sick dog that abuse the option of abortion and make it looked at in such a bad way.

 

[Theroy]

dont be a ignorant moron theroy. accidents can happend. abortion is the easiest way out and the right thing too do when u are young and dont have the posibility of offering ur child what it needs.

I'm the moron? You're the one going out and making these mistakes and I'm the moron? This isn't something that can't be avoided. You make the mistake then deal with the consequences.

either they couldnt fit in, either they had problems at school. is not easy to live a life knowing ur mum wanted to get ride of u

I don't know about you but I'd rather grow up knowing my mom couldn't handle having a kid. Then not growing up at all.

the adopted life is not always like...they found u a family and u later find out that the ppl that u loved and u called mum and dad are actually not ur parents

If they fed me loved me and cared for me I'd glady call them "Mom" and "Dad". If you despite them for what they did for you who's the ignorant one?

think like that. its a puppy..is really sick and he is tremous pain..u can keep him alive with tons of drugs..but u can have the dignity and put an end to his misery. to bring peace to him. what do u now?. let him suffer or let him go?

It's not a puppy and it's not sick and it's not suffering.

Look at it like this

You have a child let it live it's life or kill it hmm?

to be honnest i dont know how some girls even consider having a baby so young...i really dont..but then are the brakes.

Have sex all you want. If you don't want to deal with the consequences then you're obviously a child and shouldn't be doing it.

 

[VBadGirl]

Originally posted by Theroy
I'm the moron? You're the one going out and making these mistakes and I'm the moron? This isn't something that can't be avoided. You make the mistake then deal with the consequences.



I don't know about you but I'd rather grow up knowing my mom couldn't handle having a kid. Then not growing up at all.



If they fed me loved me and cared for me I'd glady call them "Mom" and "Dad". If you despite them for what they did for you who's the ignorant one?





It's not a puppy and it's not sick and it's not suffering.

Look at it like this

You have a child let it live it's life or kill it hmm?





Have sex all you want. If you don't want to deal with the consequences then you're obviously a child and shouldn't be doing it.

here we go again..im not even bodering reading all that..so whatever theroy.

 

[Theroy]

At least you could read it

 

[Glowy]

well vbadgirl it dun feel liek qouting but i pay bills dun think we depend on mom and dad i am paying for collge mmy jeep insurance and everything on my own now.....we live off of fast food (which we shouldn't) so i know i can afford it plus her income... but honestly i really dun know how it happen with the shot...i know she was late gettign ehr shot that msut be the case i am stumped. Same way my sis was on the pill and my bro-in-law was wearing a condem yet she got pregant. life is weird. anyways considering i jsut bought her a 300 treasure chest for x-mas i will be tight this month but jsut to let you knwo girl that i think i am making the right desicion...my falt i should be a man and make up for it. Adoption - I couldn't bare to do it. And the thing thast bothering me is that while i have no ****ing clue about medical shit its going to cost a hella lot of funny with she deliervers becuase they predict she will be bed ridden for the last month and that they will be using some shot or somthing i duno...i hate shots so i kinda zoned out there. They say its going to hurt her alot thoguh god i will probably cry when she goes into labor

 

[Theroy]

Originally posted by glowpole
well vbadgirl it dun feel liek qouting but i pay bills dun think we depend on mom and dad i am paying for collge mmy jeep insurance and everything on my own now.....we live off of fast food (which we shouldn't) so i know i can afford it plus her income... but honestly i really dun know how it happen with the shot...i know she was late gettign ehr shot that msut be the case i am stumped. Same way my sis was on the pill and my bro-in-law was wearing a condem yet she got pregant. life is weird. anyways considering i jsut bought her a 300 treasure chest for x-mas i will be tight this month but jsut to let you knwo girl that i think i am making the right desicion...my falt i should be a man and make up for it. Adoption - I couldn't bare to do it. And the thing thast bothering me is that while i have no ****ing clue about medical shit its going to cost a hella lot of funny with she deliervers becuase they predict she will be bed ridden for the last month and that they will be using some shot or somthing i duno...i hate shots so i kinda zoned out there. They say its going to hurt her alot thoguh god i will probably cry when she goes into labor

nuff said

 

[VBadGirl]

Originally posted by glowpole
well vbadgirl it dun feel liek qouting but i pay bills dun think we depend on mom and dad i am paying for collge mmy jeep insurance and everything on my own now.....we live off of fast food (which we shouldn't) so i know i can afford it plus her income... but honestly i really dun know how it happen with the shot...i know she was late gettign ehr shot that msut be the case i am stumped. Same way my sis was on the pill and my bro-in-law was wearing a condem yet she got pregant. life is weird. anyways considering i jsut bought her a 300 treasure chest for x-mas i will be tight this month but jsut to let you knwo girl that i think i am making the right desicion...my falt i should be a man and make up for it. Adoption - I couldn't bare to do it. And the thing thast bothering me is that while i have no ****ing clue about medical shit its going to cost a hella lot of funny with she deliervers becuase they predict she will be bed ridden for the last month and that they will be using some shot or somthing i duno...i hate shots so i kinda zoned out there. They say its going to hurt her alot thoguh god i will probably cry when she goes into labor

well all i can say is even so...living together will be totally differnt. dont expect to be easy coz it wouldnt be. anyway good luck with that coz u'll need it .

the funny thing is she will start having cravings..and sometimes at funny hours also. just arm urself with patience..lots of it .

well just be medical insured thats all i can say and make sure she sees the doctor regulary. tell her to eat as healthy as she can. no junk food. even talk with the doctor to give her vitamin and minerals supliment. I know my mom lost a lot of calcium while she was pergnant with me.

o really guess is the way she reacts to the pergancy but she should be able to do still the things she normally does until the day comes.staying as active as she can is recomended and good for the baby.

the shot that i mentioned is done only on the big day to relieve her pains. i doubt she will jhave a complicated pergancy but u never know. thats why she should go to the doctor and make sure everything's ok with the baby and he/she develops on time.

i remeber I watched once a show on tv and was about delivering a baby. it was this big though guy..right next to the wife...she start delievering and when she finished the sight of his son was too much. he fell of the chair and passed out. i laughted my arse off.

just hold her hand and remeber to go to those special clases with her . forgot how thee are called. they will teach u and her what to do when she deliveres the baby and how to take care of the baby also. dont miss those .

 

[jd-inflames]

i dont have too much more to say...just that people shouldnt argue about the abortion topic...its a pointless debate

but my views are the same as badgirl.

 

[Stone Cold1]

I didn't want a kid when my girlfriend said she was preggo. But now I have a 6 year old son. Just went to his christmas concert at his school last night. Made me happy. Got told he beat up another kid the other day because the other kid was picking on my son's friends' little sister. That made me proud!

I didn't read the whole thread but did you ever think of a name? My son's is Caleb Dominic (last name). If you look those names up in a baby name book they are very powerful names. I thought they were just cool. Good luck tho.

 

[ProdigiousLucidOsprey]

Originally posted by glowpole
well vbadgirl it dun feel liek qouting but i pay bills dun think we depend on mom and dad i am paying for collge mmy jeep insurance and everything on my own now.....we live off of fast food (which we shouldn't) so i know i can afford it plus her income... but honestly i really dun know how it happen with the shot...i know she was late gettign ehr shot that msut be the case i am stumped. Same way my sis was on the pill and my bro-in-law was wearing a condem yet she got pregant. life is weird. anyways considering i jsut bought her a 300 treasure chest for x-mas i will be tight this month but jsut to let you knwo girl that i think i am making the right desicion...my falt i should be a man and make up for it. Adoption - I couldn't bare to do it. And the thing thast bothering me is that while i have no ****ing clue about medical shit its going to cost a hella lot of funny with she deliervers becuase they predict she will be bed ridden for the last month and that they will be using some shot or somthing i duno...i hate shots so i kinda zoned out there. They say its going to hurt her alot thoguh god i will probably cry when she goes into labor

Dude, my 8 year old sister can type better than that, and you're going to be a father? All I can say is you need to clean up a little. You are making the right choice by going through, an being responsible, but the way you type, sends a bad impression. If this topic were about anything else, and you had responded I would have thought you were about 10.

 

[Theroy]

Originally posted by ProdigiousLucidOsprey
Dude, my 8 year old sister can type better than that, and you're going to be a father? All I can say is you need to clean up a little. You are making the right choice by going through, an being responsible, but the way you type, sends a bad impression. If this topic were about anything else, and you had responded I would have thought you were about 10.

You're teh back aswell . You use Aim?

 

[VBadGirl]

Originally posted by nevergoingback
Its people that compare children that should have just as much of a chance at life as their parents did to a sick dog that abuse the option of abortion and make it looked at in such a bad way.

they are both beings, both have feelings and emotions. its true that while u able to put and end to his misery without being afarid of legal actions against u... u can relieve the pain of an animal u cannot do with a born human being.

abortion is the honorable way of handeling the situation in my oppinion. u can always have another kid when u feel that u are ready. u also dont have to live with the guilt that u got ride of him and u dont know if he/she is treated right, if it has indeed a better life as u hoped.

not all cases have happy end, most of them dont..unfortunately.

i think by torturing and emotional disabling a child is far more worse than do an abortion to a 3 months old featus. just think about it.

he will be forever scared and some of them end up being problem kids, end up doing drugs, getting into trouble, ending up in jail..and the list goes on. is THAT! what u think is right for ur unwanted kid?. i really hope not.

 

[Theroy]

"honorable way of handeling the situation in my oppinion. u can always have another kid when u feel that u are ready"

Tell me where the hell you bought your morals?

" also dont have to live with the guilt that u got ride of him"

I'd live with that guilt to give my kid a chance to live.

"if he/she is treated right, if it has indeed a better life as u hoped"

We have laws in this country.

"he will be forever scared and some of them end up being problem kids, end up doing drugs, getting into trouble, ending up in jail..and the list goes on. is THAT! what u think is right for ur unwanted kid?. i really hope not"

My sister was adopted away. She does not do drugs. She gets good grades. Not in jail. Has not even had a slight insult about being adopted if she didn't tell them they wouldn't even have known. She still comes and vistes once in a while and she dosen't hate her natural mother. She calls here by her first name she calls her adopted parents Mom and Dad and there kid her brother. She still refers to me as her brother.

 

[DB]

Re: Re: I'm jsut found out I am going to be a father

Originally posted by VBadGirl
u have kids later?

Men can't have kids. -_-

 

[VBadGirl]

Re: Re: Re: I'm jsut found out I am going to be a father

Originally posted by Dark Blade
Men can't have kids. -_-

it takes 2 to have a kid. but indeed, as most men think they dont have kids..they have sex..nothing else.

theory i'd blame ur moronic arguments on the fact u are only 17. grow up a bit more then come again and speak.

u got laws..lololololol..i can give plenty examples of rich men commiting a crime and getting away with it. while other small town fishes went down for 10- 20 years. justice my ass.

i said not all..but a lot of them. ur sis was lucky. many kids dont get as lucky as she does. look around u theroy. stop being the ignorant moron u always are. go visit those centers, do some community work, involve urself. u'll see their life is not as ur sister had.

 

[Theroy]

"grow up a bit more then come again and speak. "

Grow up. If I were to have a kid I'd take ****ing responsibility for it. I probably wouldn't even have sex unti I had a good job do to I think before I do any sort of action..


Some one please validate who has a better argument here please. I'd rather live a shitty life then die.

I'd eventually grow up. And I'd be able to live my life the way I wanted.

You'd rather be dead then grow up in a community home?

 

[NeverGoingBack]

Im not gonna go into abortion much but my views are going more towards theroys opinions for once is what i will say. Im just not up to writing out the all the various reasons that my points are valid and badgirls arent.

So... here it goes in more of a harsh sense.

u think abortion is right? How about we have a doctor kill you in front of ur mother and dispose of your body in a some medical lab.

"Every judge should do a minimum of 20 to life. If they can dish it, they can take it. Now tell me that aint right."

~ Jaime Madrox of Twiztid

 

[RoaCh of DisCord]

abortion is the honorable way of handeling the situation in my oppinion. u can always have another kid when u feel that u are ready. u also dont have to live with the guilt that u got ride of him and u dont know if he/she is treated right, if it has indeed a better life as u hoped.

^^wtf

You act as if kids are nothing. "You can always have another". It's so much more than that. IT'S A HUMAN LIFE...

Seriously...comments like that...

That makes me worry about today's society. Badly.

Originally posted by VBadGirl
the adoption is far worse than abortion. i guess u are lucky but think all the kids in the adoption centers that had been moved to one family to another. either they couldnt fit in, either they had problems at school. is not easy to live a life knowing ur mum wanted to get ride of u. the adopted life is not always like...they found u a family and u later find out that the ppl that u loved and u called mum and dad are actually not ur parents. look at judging amy is an excelent show and u'll find out a bit more about the inside of those "fortunate" kids.

think like that. its a puppy..is really sick and he is tremous pain..u can keep him alive with tons of drugs..but u can have the dignity and put an end to his misery. to bring peace to him. what do u now?. let him suffer or let him go?

That's absolute bullshit. Honestly, If I look at my life now, I can say I wouldn't want to be aborted. Even if I was forced to lead a pathetic shitty life. Life is to precious to pass up, in my opinion.

I have a friend who was adopted. She was passed all around from family to family until she was like 17. Her life is rough, but it's far from torment. She's a great person, and a great friend. She enjoys life despite her problems, because she lives it to it's fullest.

Using abortion, in my eyes is 100 % murder. It's a careless, selfish act of stupidity. You open your legs, face the consequences. I don't care if the person was 12.

I don't think life is to be toyed with. People compare a fetus to a dog in pain...or whatever, that's pathetic. Determining a living persons fate shouldn't be so simple.

It's really sad...

People **** up, so they kill what they created...

UGh...it makes me sick