Love.

[Orcryst]

What do you think love is?

 

[amrtin77]

for a time i thougrht it was just people wanting to have sex, that basic instinct to pass on your genes.

but we have language, we can communicate. ive come to realize that you really can care about someone, and not jus be nice because it feels good or something. its VERY possible to do things you really dont want to do, with no reward involved, just to help someone you care about. i believe if your around someone enougrh you can start to care about them more than you care about yourself. thats love.

 

[Sogeking]

Originally posted by amrtin77
for a time i thougrht it was just people wanting to have sex, that basic instinct to pass on your genes.

but we have language, we can communicate. ive come to realize that you really can care about someone, and not jus be nice because it feels good or something. its VERY possible to do things you really dont want to do, with no reward involved, just to help someone you care about. i believe if your around someone enougrh you can start to care about them more than you care about yourself. thats love.

sadly, some people use this to their advantage and milk you for all your worth. Love is a real test of your abilities. If you loved someone and they only loved them to helpthemselves, and you found out, how would you handle it?

 

[amrtin77]

heh, love HAS to be mutual or its going to end up hurting. thats all there is to it.

this is happenin in my fa mily right now. my aunts dating a guy till he pays for her college... then shes gonna leave him. i dont like that side of the family, they dontl ike me. theyre all horrible people... bitchy, care bout no1 but themselves, start trouble for fun..


youll know if someone likes you or if theyre using you. its easy when your younger or poor coz you dont have much to give.... and if they stick with you, you know they actually like you.

thats why i know ill never have to worry bout it.. i dont plan on really having any money until im in a serious relationship. i can live off of next to nothing living alone in an apartment, or with a freind. but when you have to take care of someone you love, and possibly a family, then you gotta start gettin your act togeather and get a real job.

 

[Orcryst]

Excellent! More, more, more, more!

 

[Iliaran]

Love has historically been a concept that eluded rationalization, that defied logic. However, recent advances in science (in voles i think) indicate that chemicals are essentially responsible for what we know as love (chemicals like seratonin and vassopressin for example). However, despite the presence of both psychological and scientific support, I must say that I personally believe in the age old romanticized version of love...the sort you find in poetry. Though chemicals may indeed be responsible for the way we feel, love doesnt end at our nerve receptors. No, love is much more than that. Love, in my earnest opinion, is a mutual sense of attraction and attachment between two people...love inspires us, love drives us (insane at times). Love, is what you make of it.

 

[Darkmatter]

I think love is an instense feeling of caring, compassion, or desire towards someone. I'm in love, so I'm basing this on what I can tell about it. Always wanting to be around that person, caring for that person, and always being there for them, making sure they are okay, and when they are happy, you are happy. You feel as though your heart is theirs, and if that person isn't with you, your haeart is cutt in half, or in my case, gone. You would do anything to be with this person, you care \about them more then anything, and you will love them. Love is a great thing, for me anyways.

 

[Xenoce]

One book I'd read describes the baseline of love very well. The concept can be both considered love in itself, as well as nessicary for all other, more complex descriptions. It is: Love is a condition in which the happiness of someone else is essential to your own.

Taken from Stranger in a Strange Land

That is all.

 

[cxoli]

I think Xenoce's simple description best describes love, though I've never experienced it myself (i.e. I know what it feels like to love, but not what it feels like to be in love).

I also agree somewhat with Iliaran's scientific explanation, though I like the romantic version much better ^_^

 

[Lights]

Love is an outdated idead, one that should be shunned by general society. Love is false. Kill or be killed. That is all that matters. HOOAH!

 

[amrtin77]

only in a sad lonely life would you be right lights.....
its very possible to care about soemoen as much as you care about yourself.

welcome back.. havent seen you in awhile

 

[Darkmatter]

Yes, but I don't see why people don't care about themselves. Some people care about me moe then life, and I don't give a shit if I die tomarrow ro the next day, and yea, it's just wierd that others can love and care for you so much, when you can;t do one little thing like caring for yourself.

 

[z-tah]

What do you think makes people loving, i mean real loving, it's fantasm and masturbation. It starts by having a sexual attraction, then you become attached.

Talking about real love right now.. not the thing you feel about your mother >< And this just explains how does it works, not how does it happens.

You can always love 2-3 people as well as WANTING all of the beautiful chicks in your bed. But you'd better try staying with 1 chick if you want my advice ^^

 

[Iliaran]

not the thing you feel about your mother

Two words: Oedipus Complex (though im not a fan of freudian psychology, its very much a reality). Plus...recent development in psychology indicate that males tend to look for their mother's characterisitcs in females.

 

[Darkmatter]

I tend to differ a bit. While it may apply for most based on a sexual attraction, I love because not the looks, but the personality. I could stay a virign my whole life and not care when I'm with the person I love. I'm very blank when it comes to sex, seeing as I'm never sexually excited over anything, it's like Her and Me don't have a sexuality, only when we want kids.

 

[z-tah]

Originally posted by Iliaran
Two words: Oedipus Complex (though im not a fan of freudian psychology, its very much a reality). Plus...recent development in psychology indicate that males tend to look for their mother's characterisitcs in females.

Hmm I didn't understand the first line but IMO i think it's false, if you mean that people look at their mothers for a model of beauty (I've heard of it) well it's not this for me

I tend to differ a bit. While it may apply for most based on a sexual attraction, I love because not the looks, but the personality. I could stay a virign my whole life and not care when I'm with the person I love. I'm very blank when it comes to sex, seeing as I'm never sexually excited over anything, it's like Her and Me don't have a sexuality, only when we want kids.

Ok , so i don't understand anything about love without sex

 

[Darkmatter]

You and a lot of other people. I think sex to me is a way to express love in a greater sense then the usual stuff you would do with someone you love (hugging, kissing, etc). But that's just me.

 

[t.A.T.u97]

Like ms Lena Katina said:

"Love is a dream that people are hoping to come true"

=)

 

[Darkmatter]

I had it come true for me about 3 months ago. And I will give anything to keep it. I can't live without her love. :lovedup The feeling of being loved can always make me smile, and give me the strength to beleive in a future for myself.

 

[Korittke]

Love is the desire to be with someone, no matter the size of the hooters.