Would it be fair?

[t.A.T.u97]

I have just found out many things about my boyfriend. First off we have been together for about 3 years now off and on. Well just recently me and him broke up for about 3 weeks and in those 3 weeks he had sex with another girl, which really really upset me. Is it fair to be mad at him for that?

 

[Samsara]

Well if you are mad at him then it means you have possesion issues that you need to work out with (not an intentional flame).

Just take a deep breath and remind yourself of all the negative things he has done (i'm guessing you broke up with him ) and it will subside.

If he broke up with you, then it is kind of obvious that he has been seeing that girl for a while and were waiting for you two to split. If that is the case, he is a jerk and you deserve better.

~Ed

 

[jd-inflames]

I find it to be fair. Afterall, you aren't in a 3 year relationship for it to not mean anything. I got pretty suicidal when my ex started sleeping around...then again it was with my best friend, but I'm not in much mood to say much about that.

I'm the jealous type and can't stand for the person I'm with to further taint themselves. It pisses me off to no end. So you have my support.

 

[t.A.T.u97]

I love him so much and I am not going to share him with another cheap rebound slut. Its not common to share a man or woman, so why should I?

 

[jd-inflames]

Exactly. I slept with another girl after I broke up with my ex (one of the times...last summer.) But I wasn't intending on going back to her. At all. I knew she would be upset about it..but there wasn't much I could do, because it wasn't till after that little fling that I wanted her back. Then she broke up with me recently (she slept with my friend BEFORE hand...which made it even worse) and says I'm gone for good, but then again she keeps saying she can't be happy without me. I'm not going to be happy until I find someone new to care for who will do the same for me mutually.

Am I in the right ball park with your feelings right now? I was going to just IM you over AIM but you weren't online

 

[dP]

if you loved him so, you shouldnt be here now, you should be in your bed, crying, with your friend on the phone hearing you.

 

[jd-inflames]

And we aren't her friends? I know some of you think that e-friends are stupid...but seriously, everytime I have a serious problem, I bring them up to my real friends, then to some of you on here who I trust knowing my inner workings. To tell you the truth, I've always seemed to get more help from my friends on here.

 

[ram1500]

I have just found out many things about my boyfriend. First off we have been together for about 3 years now off and on. Well just recently me and him broke up for about 3 weeks and in those 3 weeks he had sex with another girl, which really really upset me. Is it fair to be mad at him for that?

so you're gay? Im proud you chose to come out this way.

 

[jd-inflames]

Tatu is a female...tell me you don't share the same ingorance tendancies that your brother possesses <3 Akule

 

[Darkmatter]

so you're gay? Im proud you chose to come out this way.

Stop being an ass for once. Jerk.




I think It's fair. You didn't get with him, devote your time, caring love, feelings and blood to him just to lose him to some cheap ride who can't give him what he really needs: feelings. He made a very stupid choice there if you ask me, but I think It's totally fair to be mad at him, but you have to also understand it was his decision. I mwould go into thias more but most of the questions I would ask are none of my buisness frankly, so let's leave it at this. You love him, so sharing him with someone is oput of the question. He should be deovted to you, but you rere not together when he had sex with her, but he could have ahd sex with her before you guys broke up, which would be immoral, and totally messed up. How anyone can do that, secpaill to someone like you is beyond me, it really is. If he did this for a cheap lay, it was goods for 7 seconds. Now he's going to miss that senstive, loving side only you could provide for him, I think. You also have my support if you ever need to talk, or ask Galatia about this as well, she's good with these kind of problems. i hope everything works out well for you, Tatu.

 

[t.A.T.u97]

Awwww thanks Alura! Thats so sweetness!

But yea, he was kicked to the curb thanks from the courage from JD. He wanted to be friends but f that. It just feels weird like letting go someone you shared so many things with, your mind and body. Just takes time to let go

 

[Darkmatter]

Yeah...I recently had to do that as well, the girl broke my heart and threw me away like a crushed piece of fluffy love, that she thought she could just use and get back again like that. But she didn't, and I feel better, but I'm still sad. Friend of 4 Years, I loved her, but she just used me. It really sucked. Yes, it takes time, and you have to be strong during that time, and not think any stupid thoughts.


And your welcome. Everyone calls me a emo (emotional) person here, but I guess it Isn't always a bad thing.