Teenage Love

[jd-inflames]

The bases of the future for most of us, but has proven from time to time to be incredibly pointless. We spend most of our high school career with our "sweetheart" only to realize at the absolute last moment that it just wasn't meant to be. Then you are stuck in the middle of wanting the girl back, or continue with another girl. That is a very common scenario with the love live's of teenagers from 15-19 and I find it to be rather pathetic. Why do we allow ourselves to get to such a point where it hurts when you know it is going to end sooner later, and mostly in a bad way? Why we do this to ourselves I will never know. High school should be based around getting a little bit of experience in love and sex, not get involved. So why does it happen?

 

[amrtin77]

it happens because yes, theyre kids, but as a 16 year old i can tell you that teens get involved in relationships because they really do care about eachother. they can feel love just like any adult, and just because theyre young doesnt mean they cant truely love someone and want to be with them forever.

they just realize that its not going to work out when they get a little older when they still wish it could work out... really, im suer if they care that much they could make somethnig work, maybe get married out of high school. a lot of the problem is going to different colleges, meeting new people, all kinds of stuff that happens when you get out of high school can really change a relationship

 

[jd-inflames]

Yeah, I realize that you can love someone at 16, I have been in a serious releationship since about that age, until a slight drug problem of mine took over and made it crash down, which I also realize that was my fault. Even so, if you have paid attention to your peers, which hopefully you wont have to find out first hand the hard way, most of these relationships end badly, but most importantly, most of them end. The best advice one can give, is to hope for the best and hope that this kind of thing doesn't happen, but with the maturity level of most teens that age, it rarely works out.

 

[AxL]

My sister has been going out with her boyfriend since her sophomore year in high school. He was a year older then her. Now my sister is going into her senior year in college and they are still together. They fight sometimes, and they have stages where they don't see eachother but they always come back. It is like a dog who runs away, and realizes he needs to come home. A lot of cases high school relationships don't work out, but it is a time for experiance and seeing what you like. Waiting till you are in your twenties to see what kind of person you enjoy may be a little late.

 

[bamthedoc]

Don't make me get the history book on you! Okay! I warned you!

Only in recent history has the marriage age "changed" from an average age of 12 - 14 to an average age of 20+ That being said; less than one hundred years ago, people were still having families at 14. Less than one hundred fifty years ago, women were dieing at about the average age of 35 from child-birthing so much.

It has only been in the last fifty years, in fact, that statutory (17 and younger) and child (12 and younger) rape have been added to the law books. The reason being that, before a certain point, a 35 year old man marrying a 14 year old girl was common practice and acceptable. I know it seems odd to us, today, but it was a practice carried out for centuries, and, likely, millenia -- if I recall my history correctly.

We marry later, nowadays, and teen sex should have become a whole lot more unacceptable than it has. It seems human nature just hasn't caught up to the times yet. Either that...or it is a sign of future things to come. I like to think possitively and say that human nature just hasn't caught up to the times, yet.

Whatever the case may be, that is my answer. Teens have relations because it is human nature, because only recently have things changed, and because they -- as the rest of us -- are only human. Why should teens be looked at any differently than babies, children, young adults, adults, or geriatrics? You may be thinking too much into this.

 

[cxoli]

I think people get into highschool relationships in part because it is what society encourages. Eventually, people suffer from "relationship addiction" -- the constant feeling that they need to be with someone. Then when it doesn't last, it hurts so much because they keep convincing themselves that what they are feeling is love.

However, I don't think teenagers are capable of true love, which is probably why I don't understand highschool relationships. Based on personal experience, I would have to say that most teenagers are not emotionally stable enough to have a real relationship with someone.

they can feel love just like any adult, and just because theyre young doesnt mean they cant truely love someone and want to be with them forever.

I disagree. Teenagers aren't adults (though most seem to think they are) and rarely seem to understand "love" and all that it entails. I think what most teenagers feel is just a strong emotion that is more than just a crush but not quite love. I could be wrong, but from what I've seen, few highschool couples are planning on staying together forever; it's more about sex and looking cool.

Waiting till you are in your twenties to see what kind of person you enjoy may be a little late.

Well, seeing as statistically I will live to be 77.1 years old (or 83.7 years old if I live past the age of 65), I don't think waiting until I'm in my twenties will be too late. It's not like I really have a choice anyway since most guys my age just seem like a waste of space

 

[amrtin77]

hm... you guys are right that alot of teenage relationships are about sex and looking cool infront of ur freinds, but as a 16 year oldi can garunteeyou that teenagers CAN really love someone, not just want sex, or someone to showoffto their freinds. god mykeyboard sukcs

 

[Steven22]

What is so wrong with going out with someone in high school? Sure you're most likely not gonna last much longer, but who cares. You live for the moment, you don't actually start to think about a future with your significant other UNTIL you actually start going out with them.
I dunno why everyone keeps saying that "you're just kids", "you don't love each other", "you're immature in your relationship", blah blah blah. Who the f*ck cares? You're KIDS and thats what its all about, having fun and experiencing things. Now why do some people take it a step further. I wouldn't know. Maybe they aren't ready to be in a relationship in yet they think by taking it further they will act or make their couple think that they are. To "show" everyone that you are really ready to have a girl/boyfriend.
I dunno, I'm just guessing.

 

[RuneyPoo]

Originally posted by jd-inflames
The bases of the future for most of us, but has proven from time to time to be incredibly pointless. We spend most of our high school career with our "sweetheart" only to realize at the absolute last moment that it just wasn't meant to be. Then you are stuck in the middle of wanting the girl back, or continue with another girl. That is a very common scenario with the love live's of teenagers from 15-19 and I find it to be rather pathetic. Why do we allow ourselves to get to such a point where it hurts when you know it is going to end sooner later, and mostly in a bad way? Why we do this to ourselves I will never know. High school should be based around getting a little bit of experience in love and sex, not get involved. So why does it happen?

Even though most teenagers find out at the last moment that it wasn't meant to be, it helps us for our future lives. Like say you are going out with a girl for almost two years and it just, ends all of a sudden. Well, in those two years you learn alot about love, life, sex, and caring for other people. You make friends of your gf, which you can hang out with afterwords. So we do it because we want to try and make the commitment, alot of times it doesn't work, but sometimes it does. And we do want it to work, but if it doesn't, we learn alot from it.

So, that is how I figure it... I am going on nine months in the 30th and, me and Trisha already have went through pregnancy, abortion, love, sex, and caring for each other. We have faught, learned, and broke up several times. But we are still together and, it is finally working. Hopefully it works, but if it doesn't, me and her have learned alot...

 

[jd-inflames]

I guess that is a good way to look at it. I was with my girl, Tisha (pretty close, but no cigar ) for two years, and it ended after I about had a mental breakdown. Some women are just far too much to handle.

 

[Sly]

well, im young, and i know more than 90 percent of the kids my age just go out with one another for attention, and it stays like that for another couple years. but there are a few which make up the other 10 percent who actually care about each other and i would even say they love each other. it just varies within each couple, i guess...

 

[Hitsua]

Love leads to sex, and sex loves to aids.

 

[Sly]

unless you waer 2 condoms witgh tinfoil as an xtra protection

 

[RuneyPoo]

Originally posted by SlyFie
unless you waer 2 condoms witgh tinfoil as an xtra protection

Ouch @ girl? Girl would never have sex with you again and, the condoms would snap easily...

 

[bamthedoc]

Originally posted by bamthedoc
Don't make me get the history book on you! Okay! I warned you!

Only in recent history has the marriage age "changed" from an average age of 12 - 14 to an average age of 20+ That being said; less than one hundred years ago, people were still having families at 14. Less than one hundred fifty years ago, women were dieing at about the average age of 35 from child-birthing so much.

It has only been in the last fifty years, in fact, that statutory (17 and younger) and child (12 and younger) rape have been added to the law books. The reason being that, before a certain point, a 35 year old man marrying a 14 year old girl was common practice and acceptable. I know it seems odd to us, today, but it was a practice carried out for centuries, and, likely, millenia -- if I recall my history correctly.

We marry later, nowadays, and teen sex should have become a whole lot more unacceptable than it has. It seems human nature just hasn't caught up to the times yet. Either that...or it is a sign of future things to come. I like to think possitively and say that human nature just hasn't caught up to the times, yet.

Whatever the case may be, that is my answer. Teens have relations because it is human nature, because only recently have things changed, and because they -- as the rest of us -- are only human. Why should teens be looked at any differently than babies, children, young adults, adults, or geriatrics? You may be thinking too much into this.

:fwink I love how people just, kinda, skipped and ignored my post.

 

[DB]

Originally posted by bamthedoc
:fwink I love how people just, kinda, skipped and ignored my post.

I read it. :wavey


Although, very little high school relationships lead to a succesful marriage these days, as it did way back when. My opinions on High School relationships is that they are just experimenting with women and the whole relationship concept, and hell, if they find the perfect girl for them, more power to ya.

 

[Beer $lut]

A therapist once said to me, " Love is real and true, it does not matter what the age is ". I thought he was pretty right on some grounds. However, when theres like 7-8th graders saying there in love and they have a boyfriend and girlfriend they just do it so they can write about it there aim profiles, or there online journals, that annoys me a lot. The reason we get sucked into the love scene, is because it feels good in beggening, and you feel like it will last forever, but the the truth is its not. You start getting nervous and crap and you too scared to talk to her/him, and those kind of relationship are really stupid. You just need to pick the right one, and not rush into things.

 

[c9h13no3]

Originally posted by bamthedoc
:fwink I love how people just, kinda, skipped and ignored my post.

So like, everyone?

 

[jd-inflames]

Two condoms...and tin foil? Well, if the friction from the two condoms wasn't enough to cause both of them to bust, why don't we just put some tin foil around it to peirce it a couple times...

 

[Sly]

good thinkin jd