if you've been "good friends" with a girl, it tends to make things easier to start with (some complications if it doesn't work out), but if you don't have any close female friends, i can't help, my g/f's have been "good friends" first, just get to know a girl, then improve the relationship, find out her B-day as your friendship grows, get her a thoughtful gift for her B-day (or christmas) (<<<i did this, works well, if you want more details PM me), be sure to get her # somehow, but don't overdo anything, plus, if you don't look like a demented freak, or a rotting corpse(<< me) it helps *rambles on about nothing*