I need your help on something...

[Biske]

Yes, you'll probably think of me as pathetic for asking a bunch of people I don't even know, but here me out. Today, in Chemistry, my girlfriend back stabbed me. A week ago, our teach said we'd have to give an oral report on a disease, and I saw her cringe at that, she hates standing in front of the class. So, I thought we'd team up, and I'd do it for her. We have to give a 10 slide Power Point demonstration. There were 3 people in our group including me. Mon and Tues, her "best friend"(Brittany) did a total of 3 slides. Today I told her I'd switch off and do the rest, and I did. Well, at the end of the hour, I look up to see that her, and her friend had gone off and started another report, and wanted my floppy that I had bought for our group to use, so they could save their project. I basicly told them "screw you". So, now me and this other guy have teamed up, and are going to give it tomorrow.

Anyway, she's pissed at me because I sent her a note saying "go ahead and stick with Brittany for the rest of the year, we were'nt really getting any work done anyways, I release you from having to partner with me". I told her I was gunna get a ride home, instead of ride the bus. Well, school lets out, and I head to the library, when she comes trompin in, and sits right infront of me, and just stares. I don't say a thing to her, and just go back to reading my book. She switches seats, and sits right next to me, and continues. I speak up, and say she's being very jumpy right now. And we continue in that small talk for about 5 minutes, and Brittany comes in, and sees us in our bad moods, and stays rather silent. Then, Tiff(my gf) gets up, and says she left all her stuff in the band room, so she goes and gets it, and just pretty much forgets we ever had the conversation, so I decide to go outside, where 10 minutes later, she comes up to me and asks if I am avoiding her. Well, I told her no, she went her way, and I went mine, that's not avoidance.

She says her "sorry's" before I leave, but I just blow them off like the light weight bullshit they are, and start to go to my mom's car. Well, I get home, and she sent me a small email saying "I'm sorry, it's up to you to accept it or not" and pretty much ends it with that, not once showing that she actually cared for my feelings.

So, I just finished typing up a huge fairly rough email in reply to hers saying how I really felt, and that I didn't appreciate her stabbing me in my back, and that I don't believe her petty "sorry's".

What I HATE the MOST, is that yesterday, during our passing time, she comes up to me, and starts asking me if anything is wrong, over and over(I was kinda down) so I told her to shut up, and she returns with "I ask you because I care about you"....bull...shit. She proved today that she doesn't give a damn about my feelings. I wouldn't have gotten near as angry as I am if she had just walked up to me and said "I'm gunna go work with Brittany", instead, she jsut does it without ever asking how I felt about this, she just leaves me high and dry.

Here's the question. Do I send her that email, do I tell her that I don't believe her sorrys, and stay angry with her for the rest of the week. Or do I rearrange the wording, and make it softer, and forgive her, and watch her make this same mistake again, or do I end the relationship(6 months) right here and now?

 

[Galatia]

For the sake of those 6 months give her another chance. But make sure it's her last

 

[Kuzmich]

Yes, you'll probably think of me as pathetic for asking a bunch of people I don't even know, but here me out. Today, in Chemistry, my girlfriend back stabbed me. A week ago, our teach said we'd have to give an oral report on a disease, and I saw her cringe at that, she hates standing in front of the class. So, I thought we'd team up, and I'd do it for her. We have to give a 10 slide Power Point demonstration. There were 3 people in our group including me. Mon and Tues, her "best friend"(Brittany) did a total of 3 slides. Today I told her I'd switch off and do the rest, and I did. Well, at the end of the hour, I look up to see that her, and her friend had gone off and started another report, and wanted my floppy that I had bought for our group to use, so they could save their project. I basicly told them "screw you". So, now me and this other guy have teamed up, and are going to give it tomorrow.

Anyway, she's pissed at me because I sent her a note saying "go ahead and stick with Brittany for the rest of the year, we were'nt really getting any work done anyways, I release you from having to partner with me". I told her I was gunna get a ride home, instead of ride the bus. Well, school lets out, and I head to the library, when she comes trompin in, and sits right infront of me, and just stares. I don't say a thing to her, and just go back to reading my book. She switches seats, and sits right next to me, and continues. I speak up, and say she's being very jumpy right now. And we continue in that small talk for about 5 minutes, and Brittany comes in, and sees us in our bad moods, and stays rather silent. Then, Tiff(my gf) gets up, and says she left all her stuff in the band room, so she goes and gets it, and just pretty much forgets we ever had the conversation, so I decide to go outside, where 10 minutes later, she comes up to me and asks if I am avoiding her. Well, I told her no, she went her way, and I went mine, that's not avoidance.

She says her "sorry's" before I leave, but I just blow them off like the light weight bullshit they are, and start to go to my mom's car. Well, I get home, and she sent me a small email saying "I'm sorry, it's up to you to accept it or not" and pretty much ends it with that, not once showing that she actually cared for my feelings.

So, I just finished typing up a huge fairly rough email in reply to hers saying how I really felt, and that I didn't appreciate her stabbing me in my back, and that I don't believe her petty "sorry's".

What I HATE the MOST, is that yesterday, during our passing time, she comes up to me, and starts asking me if anything is wrong, over and over(I was kinda down) so I told her to shut up, and she returns with "I ask you because I care about you"....bull...shit. She proved today that she doesn't give a damn about my feelings. I wouldn't have gotten near as angry as I am if she had just walked up to me and said "I'm gunna go work with Brittany", instead, she jsut does it without ever asking how I felt about this, she just leaves me high and dry.

Here's the question. Do I send her that email, do I tell her that I don't believe her sorrys, and stay angry with her for the rest of the week. Or do I rearrange the wording, and make it softer, and forgive her, and watch her make this same mistake again, or do I end the relationship(6 months) right here and now?

[glow=red]I don't get what your problem is. You are a man, you shouldn't care about such unimportant thing as your own feelings. JUst accept her apology and move on. I don't see a big issue here. Be a man. It is not like she is cheating on you, this is a minor thing, just get over it.[/glow]

 

[Biske]

Eh, I guess you're right, but I don't like being the typical male stereotype as being rough, harsh, non-feeling, emotionless, stupid, etc. Relationships can't last if I'm like that. Point is, she doesn't seem to care, even though she says it, she hardly ever proves it to me in her actions.

 

[Kuzmich]

[glow=red]What kind of actions would you expect from her? Common this is school, you probably not gonna mary her, just have as much fun with that relationship you can get, there is no commitment.[/glow]

 

[Biske]

Yes, but I told her I was in it for the long term, if I treat her like her last bf did, I will have turned all that I said into lies, and she'd be hurt by that. I do care for her enough not to want to hurt her in any way shape or form. There is some type of commitment, although not life long, and you're proably right, I doubt also I'll marry her, highschool relationships rarely go beyond just that, highschool.

 

[Kuzmich]

[glow=red]Guess i can't help you then, never had such such a problem with my g/f, or maybe i did but just ignored it and forgot about it. But i would just accept the apology and move on.[/glow]

 

[Master.America]

If you plan on having a long-term relationship at all (or at least as you apparently promised), then simply don't consider it another "chance" for her to be good to you. A relationship isn't going to last if it survives off of chances. Instead, forgive her (she did apologize...), and go on. And about the thing where she keeps asking why you're down... say that "it's just something I need to work out for myself... it's a personal problem," and she should understand.

 

[Oxide08]

i would say sorry and go back to the way it is ... or accept hers and tell her some changes have to be made

 

[Hot Action Akule]

6 months is puss. Tell her either she blows or she goes.

 

[Cobalt Wolf]

If I were in your situation I wouldn't worry about it too much.
You obviously don't see yourself with this girl that long anyways so just
have some fun and be friends/boyfriend & girlfriend. It's good that you
express yourself and let her know every time she upsets you - continue
to do that. If it comes down to the point of where you feel that you
would be better off with someone else, let her know and if she doesn't
change what she's doing then get with someone else. You'll have plenty
of opportunities to get with other people.

Thing is though, I understand why you're mad and you have a right to be
but you don't have to be mad or hurt by it. You'll see later on that it's not
that big of a deal. And whether you work out the problem or end up with
someone else, that is your decision. There's nothing wrong with asking for
advice (I do it all the time), but don't do something just because someone
said that is what they would do.​